Psychology of Success: Maximizing Fulfillment in Your Career and Life, Eighth Edition
By Denis Waitley
Contents:
CHAPTER 1 Psychology and Success 2
Career Path Story “Moving Up the Ladder” 2
SECTION 1.1 Understanding Success 4
What Is Success? 4
Activity 1: What Success Means to You 5
Personal Journal 1.1 Ingredients of Success 9
Activity 2: Your Role Model 11
Activity 3: Self-Awareness Checklist 14
Understanding Psychology 17
Personal Journal 1.2 Your Thoughts, Feelings, and Actions 24
SECTION 1.2 Understanding Yourself 27
Your Inner Self 27
Personal Journal 1.3 How Do You See Yourself? 32
You and Your Social World 33
Activity 4: Wheel of Life 34
Activity 5: Sides of Yourself 37
Activity 6: Identity Profile 40
Chapter Review and Activities 45
Career Path Story “Moving Up the Ladder” 47
CHAPTER 2 Self-Awareness 48
Career Path Story “What Do I Really Want?” 48
SECTION 2.1 Finding Your Direction 50
Developing Self-Awareness 50
Personal Journal 2.1 How Well Do You Know Yourself? 51
Activity 7: Private Self-Awareness Checklist 53
Defining Your Dreams 54
Getting in Touch with Your Values 57
Personal Journal 2.2 What Are Your Dreams? 58
Activity 8: Values Inventory 61
SECTION 2.2 Discovering Your Strengths 64
Personality and Individuality 64
Activity 9: Personality Self-Portrait 66
Activity 10: Discover Your Multiple Intelligences 73
Exploring Your Skills and Interests 77
Activity 11: Skills Assessment 78
Personal Journal 2.3 Exploring Your Interests 82
Putting It All Together: Self-Awareness and Career 84
Activity 12: Interest Survey 90
Chapter Review and Activities 93
Career Path Story “What Do I Really Want?” 95
CHAPTER 3 Goals and Obstacles 96
Real-Life Success Story “Where Do I Go From Here?” 96
SECTION 3.1 Setting and Achieving Goals 98
What Are Your Goals? 98
Activity 13: Setting SMART Goals 102
Activity 14: Generating Short-Term Goals 104
Personal Journal 3.1 Goal Cards 107
Overcoming Obstacles 108
Activity 15: Anticipating Obstacles 112
SECTION 3.2 Handling Stress and Anger 116
Stress and Stressors 116
Activity 16: How Stressed Are You? 119
Personal Journal 3.2 Stress Management Techniques 124
Activity 17: Personal Stressors and Relievers 125
Personal Journal 3.3 Stress Relief Reminders 127
Personal Journal 3.4 Anger Triggers 131
Chapter Review and Activities 133
Real-Life Success Story “Where Do I Go From Here?” 135
CHAPTER 4 Self-Esteem 136
Career Path Story “Do I Have What It Takes?” 136
SECTION 4.1 Understanding Self-Esteem 138
The Power of Self-Esteem 138
Activity 18: Test Your Self-Esteem 141
Activity 19: Social Support and Self-Esteem 152
Self-Expectancy and Self-Esteem 154
Personal Journal 4.1 Examine Your Self-Expectancy 156
Activity 20: Accomplishment Inventory 158
Personal Journal 4.2 Learning to Cope 161
SECTION 4.2 Learning to Like Yourself 162
Self-Acceptance and Self-Esteem 162
Activity 21: Personal Inventory 165
Personal Journal 4.3 Your Ideal Self 171
Using Positive Self-Talk 172
Activity 22: Negative Self-Talk Log 174
Criticism and Self-Esteem 179
Activity 23: Handling Criticism 185
Chapter Review and Activities 188
Career Path Story “Do I Have What It Takes?” 190
CHAPTER 5 Positive Thinking 192
Real-Life Success Story “Will Things Go My Way?” 192
SECTION 5.1 Becoming a Positive Thinker 194
Positive Thinking and Optimism 194
Adopting Positive Habits 199
Activity 24: Are You a Positive Thinker? 200
Personal Journal 5.1 Focusing on the Good 202
Activity 25: Banishing Worry 206
Thinking Style and Health 208
Personal Journal 5.2 Depression Self-Check 210
Activity 26: What’s Your Health Attitude? 212
SECTION 5.2 Conquering Negative Thoughts 216
Overcoming Self-Defeating Attitudes 216
Recognizing Distorted Thoughts 218
Activity 27: Challenging Self-Defeating Attitudes 219
Personal Journal 5.3 From Irrational to Rational 226
Changing Your Negative Thoughts 226
Activity 28: Disputing Negative Thoughts 229
Chapter Review and Activities 232
Real-Life Success Story “Will Things Go My Way?” 234
CHAPTER 6 Self-Discipline 236
Real-Life Success Story “Should I Make a Change?” 236
SECTION 6.1 Taking Control of Your Life 238
What Is Self-Discipline? 238
Personal Journal 6.1 Going Against the Odds 241
Controlling Impulses 243
Activity 29: Do You Control Your Life? 244
Embracing Change 246
Personal Journal 6.2 Thinking Long Term 247
Activity 30: Making Positive Changes 249
Conquering Bad Habits 251
Activity 31: Overcoming Resistance to Change 252
Activity 32: Getting to Know Your Bad Habits 256
Personal Journal 6.3 Habit Change Chart 259
SECTION 6.2 Disciplining Your Thinking 261
Learning to Think Critically 261
Activity 33: How Critical Is Your Thinking? 263
Becoming a Better Decision Maker 269
Activity 34: Developing Your Critical Thinking 270
Activity 35: Using the Decision-Making Process 274
Personal Journal 6.4 Pros and Cons 279
Chapter Review and Activities 281
Real-Life Success Story “Should I Make a Change?” 283
CHAPTER 7 Self-Motivation 284
Real-Life Success Story “How Can I Succeed?” 284
SECTION 7.1 Understanding Motivation 286
The Power of Motivation 286
Personal Journal 7.1 Generating Positive Motivation 288
Activity 36: What Motivates You? 290
Needs and Motivation 293
Activity 37: Are Your Needs Being Met? 299
SECTION 7.2 Recharging Your Motivation 301
Motivation and Emotion 301
Overcoming Fear of Failure 303
Overcoming Fear of Success 305
Activity 38: Expanding Your Comfort Zone 306
Visualization 309
Personal Journal 7.2 Confronting Fear of Success 310
Activity 39: Visualizing Success 314
Chapter Review and Activities 316
Real-Life Success Story “How Can I Succeed?” 318
CHAPTER 8 Managing Your Resources 320
Real-Life Success Story “Will I Ever Be Able to Enjoy Some
‘Free’ Time?” 320
SECTION 8.1 Time Management 322
Taking Control of Your Time 322
Activity 40: Time-Demand Survey 324
Personal Journal 8.1 Prioritizing Your Life 327
Activity 41: Examining Your Priorities 329
Activity 42: Time-Management Practice 332
Personal Journal 8.2 What’s Your Prime Time? 334
Tackling Procrastination 334
Activity 43: Do You Procrastinate? 336
SECTION 8.2 Money Management 339
Money Matters 339
Personal Journal 8.3 How Do You See Money? 340
Activity 44: Expense Log 343
Stretching Your Resources 347
Activity 45: Budget Worksheet 348
Personal Journal 8.4 Look Before You Leap 352
Chapter Review and Activities 355
Real-Life Success Story “Will I Ever Be Able to Enjoy Some
‘Free’ Time?” 357
CHAPTER 9 Communication and Relationships 358
Career Path Story “How Do I Talk to My Supervisor?” 358
SECTION 9.1 Effective Communication 360
A Look at Communication 360
Activity 46: How Much Do You Know About Communication? 361
Nonverbal Communication 366
Activity 47: Analyzing Communication 367
Improving Your Communication Skills 372
Activity 48: Body Language Log 373
Personal Journal 9.1 “I” Statements 377
Activity 49: Giving Feedback 379
SECTION 9.2 Healthy Relationships 385
A Look at Relationships 385
Personal Journal 9.2 Understanding Diversity 388
Personal Journal 9.3 Circles of Yourself 390
Interpersonal Relationships 392
Activity 50: Your Close Relationships 394
Personal Journal 9.4 Dealing with Conflict 399
Chapter Review and Activities 401
Career Path Story “How Do I Talk to My Supervisor?” 403
Glossary 404
Key Points 415
Further Reading 420
Index 423
FIGURES Table of Figures
FIGURE 1.1 Positive and Negative Emotions 26
FIGURE 2.1 Feeling Words 55
FIGURE 2.2 Expanding Your Intelligences 76
FIGURE 3.1 SMART Goals 100
FIGURE 3.2 The ABC Model 116
FIGURE 4.1 Childhood Origins of Self-Esteem 150
FIGURE 4.2 You and Your Ideal 170
FIGURE 4.3 Responding to Constructive Criticism 181
FIGURE 4.4 Responding to Destructive Criticism 183
FIGURE 5.1 The Power of Positive Thoughts 196
FIGURE 5.2 Self-Defeating Attitudes: A Vicious Cycle 217
FIGURE 5.3 The ABCDE Method 228
FIGURE 6.1 Ingredients of Self-Discipline 239
FIGURE 7.1 Positive and Negative Motivation 287
FIGURE 7.2 Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs 295
FIGURE 7.3 Expanding the Comfort Zone 304
FIGURE 8.1 Where the Money Goes 345
FIGURE 9.1 Elements of Communication 363
FIGURE 9.2 Influences on Nonverbal Communication 372
FIGURE 9.3 The Johari Window 397